Tag: Self management skills

Big Worries, Small Experiments

How Can Parents Support their Children through the Anxiety that Comes with the New School Year and Build Strength, Resilience, and Confidence? As soon as Tina spied her daughter’s face walking toward the car after school, she knew something was wrong. Tina got out and said, “Are you okay?” but daughter Alyssa quickly shut her …

Summer Scrapes, Cuts, and Bruises: How to Offer First Aid with Emotional Intelligence

“Are you okay?” I asked as E made a beeline from the outdoors in straight to the upstairs bathroom and shut the door. “No,” he uttered angrily coming out and showing me bloody elbows and knees and scraps up and down the side of his body. It was his first day out of school. And …

Promoting Focused Attention; Teaching your Child the Essential Brain Break

“Uuuwwaaaahhhh” I heard from our dining room table and recognized immediately the telltale sign of my son getting frustrated with his homework. “He hasn’t been working that long,” was my first thought. My second was, “this is gonna be a long night.” Children of all ages will experience frustration during homework time. And because we …

When Parenting for Confidence, Independence, and Resilience, Build Self-Management Skills

Parents hope to raise confident, independent, and resilient kids. They can work toward that hope each day by building the skill of self-management.  What Is It? The skill of self-management (a.k.a. self-control, impulse control, or emotional regulation) is the ability to control impulses and express emotion in socially appropriate ways that do no harm to …

Readers’ Responses to “How do you teach your children self-control?”

Lots of pretend play! If they pretend to be someone with self-control (like a mom in a long line at the grocery store)….they are practicing having self-control! – Shannon B. Wanless, Ph.D., Assistant Professor, Program of Applied Developmental Psychology, Department of Psychology in Education, School of Education, University of Pittsburgh I make my kids save and …

The Power of Self Control

We are the hero of our own story. – Mary McCarthy In the hero’s journey, an ordinary person is called through extraordinary circumstances to sacrifice a part of him or herself in order to serve the greater good. In doing so, the reward or victory is self knowledge and a demonstration of character that the …

Catching Emotions

“…it’s just emotion that’s taken me over…” –          Emotion, Bee Gees The baby books are keen on discussing “emotional contagion,” noting that babies, even in utero, can feel your emotions and tend to adopt those same emotions (just to add to our Mommy guilt!). And certainly you’ve experienced the contagion in your family life. One person …

Cooling the Fire

It was the best of times, it was the worst of times, it was the age of wisdom, it was the age of foolishness.                           – Charles Dickens, A Tale of Two Cities Ahhh, family life! Being in a family means that all members will witness one another in the best and worst of times. …