About the Founder

Self portrait
Dear Fellow Parents and Caregivers,

We are celebrating a decade now of this site and more importantly, the dialogue about how to become confident parents raising confident kids. After many years of working in schools integrating social and emotional skill building into the curriculum, I became a parent. Those early years were challenging, isolating and confusing. Old patterns from my own childhood appeared out of nowhere along with the associated difficult feelings. How was I possibly going to be the Mom I aspired to be and promote critical social and emotional skills in my son and myself? I needed support. And I looked for it. I looked and looked and though I found many opinions, I wondered: “who should I trust?”

At 3 a.m. one night in my son’s early preschool years, I woke with the thought that this is what I must do – use my own family as a learning lab, dive into the best of what is known about child development, teaching and learning, and the science of social relationships and emotional skills, and start a dialogue with other parents who deeply recognized parenting as the most meaningful and difficult job in the world. The name came to me immediately because confidence was what I wanted to find for myself while helping others.

Nearly thirty years ago, I began my career in “dropout prevention” working with Communities In Schools as an AmeriCorps*VISTA volunteer. I had the realization then that I was spending much more time on kids’ social and emotional development than on academic content to promote their school success. Most of my time was spent in low-income communities until I worked in Chicago with the Collaborative for Academic, Social and Emotional Learning (CASEL). There, I had the opportunity to work with a diverse range of districts including those that served very high-income student populations. It became evident that wealthy suburban children needed social and emotional skills just as much as their inner city, low-income counterparts (and every kid in between).

With ongoing coaching and professional development, I have been able to facilitate positive and significant change with individual teachers and with whole school systems to become even more effective in teaching by engaging the motivation of students, supporting their development and making trusting connections among adults and students.

In becoming a parent in recent years, I realized how much I was trying to translate the work I was doing in schools to my parenting life and how challenging it was. What are the secrets of the best educators and how do they advance students’ development? And how could I, as a parent, translate some of those secrets to my home life in an accessible, simple way?

Jennifer with husband, Jason and six year old son, E
Jennifer with husband, Jason and six-year old son, E

This blog is a way to share the best of what educators know about engaging young people of all ages for the purpose of deep learning to advance their development and maximize their potential. The idea is not to replace the critical role of schools in teaching skills in self-awareness, self-management, social awareness, relationship skills and responsible decision-making[i] but to reinforce, practice and model those skills at home. And to turn difficulties with children into opportunities for learning. It’s a joy to illustrate the ideas and concepts.

Now in our tenth year, I am joined by a diverse team of parents who are also experts who are regularly questioning, thinking deeply about their parenting and translating that for us here.  Check out this incredible team I’m honored to partner with!

My son has grown taller than my husband and I, now a teenager! And we have grown right along with him as we’ve learned that every parenting challenge can be an opportunity to promote social and emotional skills that will serve us for a lifetime. What a blessing this site and this work has been! Grateful to you for checking out this community. If you are new, welcome! Please subscribe to receive weekly emails. Thanks for visiting and I hope you will not only read but also contribute to this valuable conversation!


Jennifer 3 signature 001

You are welcome to contact me with any ideas, comments or questions at confidentparentsconfidentkids@gmail.com!

For nearly thirty years, Jennifer Miller has worked with educators and families to help them become more effective with children through social and emotional learning (SEL).

She authored and illustrated the book “Confident Parents, Confident Kids: Raising Emotional Intelligence In Ourselves and Our Kids”  and founded the organization by the same name ten years ago growing an international platform through her blog with more than 23,000 followers in 152 countries world-wide.She has served as a regular expert contributor to NBC’s TODAY Parenting, PBS WNET and Parent Magazine. She conducted and published original peer-reviewed research on parenting with SEL.” She co-founded SEL for Ohio, a statewide network to champion social and emotional learning and serves on the SEL for U.S. Leadership Council. She consults with schools, conducts research and offers webinars on parenting and SEL with partners in Ohio and nationally. She has her master’s degree in Instructional Leadership with a focus on social and emotional development and lives with her husband and fifteen-year-old son in Columbus, Ohio.

And she illustrates her work for the pure joy of it.


Masters of Education in Instructional Leadership with a focus on Social and Emotional Learning (SEL). University of Illinois, Chicago, IL.

Bachelor of Arts in Communication Arts. Xavier University, Cincinnati, OH. with a minor in Fine Art and Graphic Design.


Founder, Confident Parents, Confident Kids and Owner, Jennifer Miller Consulting L.L.C., Families and PreK-16 schools nationally

Co-Founder, Social and Emotional Learning Alliance of Ohio

Co-Founder, Hearth

Director, Office of Safety, Health and Nutrition at the Ohio Department of Education

Director of Illinois Initiatives at the Collaborative for Academic, Social and Emotional Learning at the University of Illinois at Chicago

Executive Director of the Center for Peace Education (Cincinnati, Ohio)

Program Specialist for the Corporation for National and Community Service (Washington, D.C.)

AmeriCorps*VISTA Volunteer for Communities In Schools (Ardmore, OK)

“Jennifer Miller is an extraordinary consultant for she has in-depth knowledge about social-emotional learning and with a smile and great energy translates and transfers this knowledge to classroom teachers, administrators and other key school employees. When you work with Jennifer, expect the best!” 

– Elizabeth Ruppert, M.D. FAAP, Professor Emeritus of Pediatrics, University of Toledo College of Medicine

[i] Collaborative for Academic, Social and Emotional Learning (2003). Safe and sound; An educational leader’s guide to evidence-based social and emotional learning programs. Chicago, IL: Author.

© Copyright, 2023, Jennifer Smith Miller. All rights reserved.

10 Comments on “About the Founder”

  1. Pingback: The Time Has Come for IF… by Jennifer Miller | If...

  2. Jennifer,
    We’re thrilled to be connected and would love to talk with you about what we’re up to with the BeLonging Project. If after looking at the website, you’d like to read Chapter 4 of my Elsevier 2013 book, “The Mereon Matrix; Unity, Perspective and Paradox”, that presents this in detail, let me know and I’ll send you a pdf.
    All the best,

  3. Pingback: Influencers and Worries... According to Kids! - PediaCast 419 -PediaCast

  4. I am attending the CASEL conference in October as president of the Social-Emotional Learning Alliance for Massachusetts (www.SEL4MA.org) and d/b/a SEL4US (www.SEL4US.org). I am starting a new initiative where we are attempting to bring SEL out into the community in one city as a pilot project as a cross-sector initiative with the goal of seeing these skills will be practiced in homes by parents. Would love to talk to you about messaging to parents at the email I logged in on.

  5. Do you speak at conferences? We are looking for a keynote speaker for a state conference in October. It is a parent engagement conference and is made up of parents and school staff. About 500 participants. The conference is being held at career and technical school in Las Vegas.

    • Hi Robin, Thanks for reaching out! Yes, I do offer keynote speeches. The parent engagement conference sounds wonderful. At this point, I am not scheduling travel due to COVID19 and in fact, have one virtual presentation scheduled for a conference in October already. Happy to talk further about it. You are welcome to email me with more details at confidentparentsconfidentkids@gmail.com. Hope to connect further! Best, Jennifer Miller

Leave a Reply

%d bloggers like this: