Cultivating a Sense of Competence

How can the sun always be on fire? Where does the fire come from? asks E, my five year old son. I don’t know, I say. Good question. Papa Dave will know. He’s tall so he knows everything, asserts E. –          Conversation… Read More

A Fork in the Road

  Your children are not your children They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself… You may give them your love but not your thoughts, For they have their own thoughts.  –          Kahlil Gibran, The Prophet, 1923 Parenting in… Read More

Expanding the Circle: Teaching Children Inclusion

If it is his privilege to be independent, it is equally his duty to be inter-dependent. ― Mahatma Gandhi All children have to deal with and understand the paradox of separateness and connection, of individuality and belonging. In utero, babies have no… Read More

Take the One Thing for Spring Challenge

It takes a lot of courage to release the familiar and seemingly secure, to embrace the new. But there is no real security in what is no longer meaningful. There is more security in the adventurous and exciting, for in the movement… Read More

The Comeback Kid

There is nothing as sweet as a comeback, when you are down and out, about to lose, and out of time. – Anne Lamott Rewarding but challenging, comebacks can be difficult to come by when you are in a conflict situation. The… Read More

Unconditional Love: The Prequel

Love yourself first and everything else falls in line. –          Lucille Ball There were so many interesting reader reactions to last week’s article on “Unconditional Love and Attention” that I felt it was important to take the issue one step further this… Read More

Unconditional Love and Attention

Accept the children the way we accept trees — with gratitude, because they are a blessing — but do not have expectations or desires. You don’t expect trees to change, you love them as they are. –       Isabel Allende In honor of… Read More

Are Questions the Answer?

Too often we give our children answers to remember rather than problems to solve. – Roger Lewin What do you know about the biggest creatures on earth? What nighttime dream do you remember most vividly? Why do you think you remember it?… Read More

Strategies for Teaching Self-Control

“I think of discipline as the continual everyday process of helping a child learn self-discipline.” – Fred Rogers The responders to the question “How do you teach children self-control?” provided lots of rich ideas. In addition to theirs, I have added some… Read More

The Power of Self Control

We are the hero of our own story. – Mary McCarthy In the hero’s journey, an ordinary person is called through extraordinary circumstances to sacrifice a part of him or herself in order to serve the greater good. In doing so, the… Read More