The Comeback Kid

There is nothing as sweet as a comeback, when you are down and out, about to lose, and out of time. – Anne Lamott Rewarding but challenging, comebacks can be difficult to come by when you are in a conflict situation. The following comeback formula can be a powerful retort with great grandmas, in-laws, dads, …

Unconditional Love: The Prequel

Love yourself first and everything else falls in line. –          Lucille Ball There were so many interesting reader reactions to last week’s article on “Unconditional Love and Attention” that I felt it was important to take the issue one step further this week. One reader asked, “Isn’t unconditional love of self a pre-condition or critical …

Unconditional Love and Attention

Accept the children the way we accept trees — with gratitude, because they are a blessing — but do not have expectations or desires. You don’t expect trees to change, you love them as they are. –       Isabel Allende In honor of Valentine’s Day, I thought I’d write about our love for our children and …

Are Questions the Answer?

Too often we give our children answers to remember rather than problems to solve. – Roger Lewin What do you know about the biggest creatures on earth? What nighttime dream do you remember most vividly? Why do you think you remember it? What super power would you like to have? When have you been most …

Strategies for Teaching Self-Control

“I think of discipline as the continual everyday process of helping a child learn self-discipline.” – Fred Rogers The responders to the question “How do you teach children self-control?” provided lots of rich ideas. In addition to theirs, I have added some ways you can teach your children self-control in your day-to-day life. I’ve separated …

The Power of Self Control

We are the hero of our own story. – Mary McCarthy In the hero’s journey, an ordinary person is called through extraordinary circumstances to sacrifice a part of him or herself in order to serve the greater good. In doing so, the reward or victory is self knowledge and a demonstration of character that the …

Dinner: Delight or Disaster?

A smiling face is half the meal. –          Proverb Food is inherently social. Often mealtime can be a source of great stress with children. Each family members’ unspoken goals for the meal can differ. Parents want kids to sit down with them, eat a healthy meal and not waste food. Children are excited about seeing …

A Truly Good Morning

I love the mornings! I clap my hands every morning and say, ‘This is gonna be a great day!’ –      Dicky Fox, Jerry Maguire, 1996 Do you consider yourself a morning person? Are you someone who loves to get up bright and early and has energy and vocal cords that work by the break of …

Play and a Happy Holiday to You!

In play, a child is always above his average age, above his daily behavior; in play, it is as though he were a head taller than himself. – Lev Vygotsky (1896-1934) Since Christmas is the holiday I celebrate in the coming week and toys are filling my head and attic, I thought it appropriate to …

What Can I Do about Sandy Hook Elementary School?

Making the decision to have a child – it’s momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart walking around outside your body. –       Elizabeth Stone And this is the very reason why the events of Sandy Hook Elementary School have shaken us all to the core. Because it is our very exposed heart …