The short answer is – it depends! Learn more about the distinction between arguing to win versus arguing to learn. Think about your own dialogue with friends and family in person and on social media. Learn specific ways you can argue for learning while simultaneously promoting this constructive form of dialogue with your child.

Here’s how the article begins…

“Recess is no fun anymore!” my ten-year-old son laments after school. I listened, surprised, knowing that recess is an essential time to get fresh air and stretch those muscles that have been atrophying in desk chairs all morning. “How come?” I ask. “We always play football,” responds my son, “and everyone argues and then no one plays anymore. We just walk away.” “What do they argue about?” I ask. “Everything!” says my son. “Who gets the ball. Who lost the ball. Who scored points.”

Even though it’s disappointing to hear from my son, it’s not surprising. We watch competitive arguing, or arguing to win, in our national political debates and on social media. So our kids see examples everywhere for entering conversations with the sole intent to win.

But are these examples doing a disservice to our kids? Are they setting them up for difficulties in school and in their relationships? Read the full article on NBC Parent Toolkit! 

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